Saturday, September 13, 2014

Inbox (69)

I write this post with my inbox open in the background with 69 unread messages.  What this has to do with my post, absolutely nothing, but I thought it was interesting.

I actually have quite a bit to write about, unfortunately nothing involves sex or at least my having sex.

Spent the last week in New Orleans.  It was my first time to the Big Easy and I have to admit, what an incredible city.

Having arrived on a Sunday, I thought that it would be a quite night where I could sit and have dinner and enjoy some of the historic sites.  It started as such, but ended with many glasses of whiskey and me talking to the ladies of a bachelorette party.  That was only the beginning.

By Thursday night, a night that I did not spend in a drunken stupor and retired to the hotel early, (1 am), I was shaking and my heart was pounding in my chest from the lack of alcohol.

I am glad to be back in my hometown and my liver thanks me too.  Funny thing is that I was there for a work conference.  Going to the conference hung over was tough until one of the organizers admitted to be so hungover during one of our more important meetings.  It was definitely a relief to see everyone in the same position.

I went with the intent of enjoying good food, music and people, and ended up drinking more than I ate.

Again, what an incredible city.

There are a lot of other things going on in my life that warrant some good posts, but I have learned that I tend not to read a long post and would rather break them into shorter posts.

I plan on writing them and setting up a time to publish them so they come out in sequence, giving people time to read and respond if they care to.

If you have never been to New Orleans, I highly, highly recommend it... just remember to give your liver a break at some point.

Tuesday, September 2, 2014

Hacked Celebrities - Victim Blaming

The aftermath of the celebrity hacking scandal is evident on many of the news sites in the comments from the people reading the news.

The overwhelming majority of people seem to think that the fault lies with the celebrities for taking naked pictures of themselves and assuming they are safe when they are on their own personal cell phone or in their own personal cloud account.

How is that logic even reasonable.  So let's just say that I decide at some point that I am in a loving relationship with someone that I trust and we decide to send each other provocative pictures, or even go so far as take pictures while we are involved in an intimate act.  We have taken these pictures with a mutual trust that they will stay between us and not be shared.

With the immediate backup of my phone to the internet those pictures end up on some website that only I know the password to and we can access together later.  If someone steals those pictures off of that site and posts them without either of our permissions that is technically theft and is a violation of our privacy.  This is the argument that I have seen from the celebrities that are victims of this hack.

And I agree 100%.

Did you know that celebrities are just like us.  They get naked and have sex and maybe make some bad choices but like all of us that write on these blogs we like somethings to remain private.

I have naked pictures of my wife, and had pictures of an old girlfriend and actually have some of the people that I have met on this site, and I would never post any of these without permission from the people in the pictures.

Where does it say that as a celebrity they give up their right of privacy?  And I am not saying that on the street they can't be photographed or if they go without panties they can't complain when a picture of them exiting a car goes viral.

What I am talking about is private pictures that people share with someone they trust.

Yes American has to open up a bit more about sexuality as I have seen some comments indicating.  But this culture of victim blaming and slut shaming has to stop.

Kate Upton and Jennifer Lawrence and the myriad of other celebrities caught up in this scandal are not sluts, they are not stupid or at fault for not knowing the consequences of technology.  They merely took some intimate pictures of themselves that were meant for only a few eyes.

Please let us stop blaming the victims.