tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8984135679757619792.post1166103171694111335..comments2023-04-01T19:28:28.995-07:00Comments on Blue Eyed Bader: On FriendshipJackBaderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11376315782020588939noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8984135679757619792.post-68134855410150293762011-03-02T08:47:55.549-07:002011-03-02T08:47:55.549-07:00In my experience the cornerstone to genuine satisf...In my experience the cornerstone to genuine satisfaction and happiness (even in the face of difficult circumstances) is the joy of friendship, especially within a marriage. Every day clearly can't be roses and sunshine, but even the most difficult town, region, group of people, financial situation, work situation is all made brighter when you have a partner to share the load and point out the laughs.<br /><br />I feel for you, Bader and sincerely hope it (and she) gets better. Being a child of the Deep South myself, I know that even deep within the hunting, fishing, quilting and crafting communities, there are people who enjoy hiking, biking, nature, music, art, etc. And even those who don't often have many other redeeming qualities and are, in their hearts, often wonderful people. Of course, my guess is you already know that and the problem isn't lack of opportunities (even though they may be more limitted than you both had before) but rather lack of willingness to embrace what options are there and find a new groove in a new place. <br /><br />Best of luck to you.<br /><br />(Oh, and Coltrane is a wonderful way to slip you mind into a better state. May I also recommend John Hiatt. He isn't jazz, but his melody's and lyrics are often wonderful tonic when you need clear-eyed and kindly take on a challenging world.)IveyLanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00752315896121837812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8984135679757619792.post-47346519762847117472011-03-01T20:12:43.658-07:002011-03-01T20:12:43.658-07:00*hugs* *more hugs*
xoxo
~vk~*hugs* *more hugs*<br /><br />xoxo<br />~vk~vixen kittenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14179434378541993591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8984135679757619792.post-56822678817176816662011-02-24T10:58:43.574-07:002011-02-24T10:58:43.574-07:00GLad to see you back again.
Im sorry that things h...GLad to see you back again.<br />Im sorry that things havent gotten any better.<br /><br />Maybe if she joined some kind of group she could meet people.<br />Like scrap booking? The gym- yoga class? College course maybe? photography?<br /><br />Hope things get better.KittyCathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07089609329002975320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8984135679757619792.post-26421669659257379602011-02-24T10:08:03.840-07:002011-02-24T10:08:03.840-07:00Does she have any type of hobby or interest? Anyth...Does she have any type of hobby or interest? Anything at all that gives her some pleasure? I can speak from the depression view because I am clinically depressed but I have/need to work and have developed interests - it is absolutely mandatory, otherwise I'd just keep sinking lower and lower. If she is unwilling and/or unable to help herself, you won't be able to do anything. SHE has to WANT to change her life. Just like an addict. Is she seeing a therapist? Taking medication? If not, she needs that, too.<br /><br />I wish I could sound more positive but depression isn't. I can only send you some positive energy and hope that she will decide to make her life worth living. Oh, YOU are not the problem.nitebyrdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04967190902623933068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8984135679757619792.post-18419112113441163482011-02-24T08:46:04.216-07:002011-02-24T08:46:04.216-07:00I am pretty much like your wife. I don't have ...I am pretty much like your wife. I don't have lots of friends (and don't feel the need to) and have trouble making new friendships. I'm also fine with staying home, but do other stuff outside and enjoy the occasional girls night out. Sometimes I wish I had more friends, sometimes not. :)<br /><br />I found a website (it runs in the US too) that allows me to find other people with similar interests: www.meetup.com. (no, they are not paying me for the advertisement, LOL)Francehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13015208689942511974noreply@blogger.com