My sex life is extremely vanilla as you have read on here. More often than not it is non-existence but when we do have sex it is missionary, or me on my side and her on her back. We occasionally change it up like last week and I put her legs over my shoulders and we fuck hard. But it is still always vanilla.
When talking about it I explain my desires to explore more non-traditional sex. I want to explore bondage and restraints and would love to get slightly more into pain and withholding pleasure from the other partner.
During one of these conversations she told me her dreams.
She dreams about being fucked roughly by strangers. Being held down and taken, not against her will but restrained to where she can not resist.
In her dreams she explained that it is never with me, but always someone else. Someone she has never met before and can not really make out the face.
She told me she was embarrassed by it and that I should not take it the wrong way. Take it the wrong way, ha, I am turned on by it.
Stranger fantasies are on my list of things I want to try. Not necessarily bringing someone else into the bedroom but acting out a little scene with her meeting me in a bar acting like we do not know each other then going back to our place or even a motel and fucking like we just met.
I suggested and she said it would be fun to try.
The idea of restraints is new for me too, I never thought she would want to be held down. With her sex seems more of a chore, something that she does to please me. Something that she does not like very much.
We are trying to change that. And now I realize that my wife may be a submissive.
It definitely turns me on to think about having her tied up or even the idea of pretending to not know each other.
Maybe I would even be comfortable bringing someone else into the bedroom at some point. Someone that could fulfill both our fantasizes.
It is amazing for me to consider all this, and maybe a bit too good to be true. Hopefully I can pique her interest in these things again and we can explore all this together.
It is definitely a turn on for me and hopefully it will be for her. I know she tells me she wakes up wet after having these dreams, so that is a good sign.